Hey Reader, What do you want? Someone who loves you for exactly who you are. And then what do you do? Act nothing like yourself. And then what do you get? Someone who thinks they know you. And then how do you feel? Not great, because they don’t actually know you. And then what do you do? Usually, end the relationship. And then who do you blame? Maybe them, maybe yourself. And then what do you do next?… If this cycle sounds familiar, you’re probably stuck in people-pleasing mode: the sneaky...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Let’s be honest... cause a lot of women are feeling it right now... many men suck.(Not all, but enough to make dating feel like trying to find Wi-Fi in the desert.) Between half-hearted effort, emotional unavailability, and situationships that go nowhere, it’s easy to lose faith in the whole process. But if you do want to keep dating (and, better yet, stop feeling defeated by it), there’s one little thing you can do that’ll save you a ton of emotional energy: 👉 Choose and commit to one of...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Let’s be real… most people who struggle in dating aren’t struggling because they don’t care enough. They’re struggling because they care too much. They analyze every text. Overthink every pause. Rehearse every conversation before it even happens. If that sounds familiar, I want you to know this: You’re not “too much.” You’re just trying too hard. And I don’t mean that in a judgmental way. I mean you’re trying too hard to control something that’s meant to flow. Connection....
4 months ago • 1 min read
Hi, Reader, Have you ever gone home after a date and spent hours replaying every word, wondering what they meant, what you did wrong, and whether you’ll ever find love? You’re not alone (and you’re definitely not broken). But here’s the truth: some of the questions you’re asking yourself aren’t helping you get clarity... they’re actually secretly keeping you stuck (ugh, I know). Overthinking can feel productive (like you’re protecting yourself from heartbreak). But more often than not, it...
5 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader, If you’ve ever been on a date, there’s a 99.9% chance you’ve asked a question. Maybe even two or three. 😉 Questions are, of course, a key part of dating. But what you ask matters more than you might think. There are the usual small-talk questions (“What do you do for work?” “Where are you from?”). However, those rarely tell you much about a person’s character or emotional availability. Instead, I want you to try what I call strategic questions: the subtle, revealing ones that give...
5 months ago • 1 min read
I'll admit it, Reader - I loved that my husband took me out on our first date and covered the bill. I loved that he opened up the car door for me, picked out an appetizer he thought we should try, and covered the bill. But I don't love it because I expected it. I loved it because those were just a few of the many ways in which he authentically demonstrated his interest. Looking back, knowing what I know now (11 years later), those gestures were just small splashes on a canvas of a much richer...
6 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, If dating feels like a never-ending performance, I get it. There are so many rules floating around what to wear, how to act, what to say, when to text, how to “be chill” but also interesting, confident but not too much, you should feel this way or that way immediately or it's useless, be feminine but independent… It’s exhausting. And honestly? Most of these rules aren’t helping you find real love. They’re helping you stay in your head, shrink yourself, chase someone who isn’t even...
7 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader! Ever caught yourself spiraling in the “fear of rejection-to-overthinking cycle of doom”? (or at least that's what I call it...) If that sounds all too familiar, you’re definitely not alone. We all know getting rejected sucks. But have you ever considered how overthinking might be making that fear of rejection even worse? It’s like a never-ending loop that keeps us second-guessing every word, every text, every move. Sound exhausting? It is. But there’s a way out, Reader! I just...
over 1 year ago • 1 min read
Love Life Lessons samenewlove.com A Relationship that's "Hard" but WORTH IT Versus a relationship that's hard but NOT WORTH IT. Watch the Reel Hey Reader, Have you ever wondered what people mean when they say "relationships are hard"? Like... how hard are we talking? And why are they even worth it if they are so dang hard?? And most importantly - what's the fine line between a relationship that's hard but worth it VS a relationship that's hard but not worth it? 🤔I wanted to share something...
over 1 year ago • 2 min read