Hi love, A lot of relationship conflict (especially when it escalates) isn’t just about the issue itself. It’s also about: not feeling heard, feeling interrupted, getting defensive, poor timing, harsh tone, or trying to solve a problem when someone simply wanted understanding first. Most people were never really taught how to have difficult conversations in a healthy way. So I put together a new blog post with 12 relationship rules that can completely change the way conflict feels, making...
16 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, I’m opening up a waitlist for something I’ve been building behind the scenes: Dating Redefined (The 5-Week Group Program). This isn’t starting right away. We’re looking at a July-ish kickoff, and I’m being intentional about who joins. People who are ready to not only question the patterns they've been following…The rules they've been unconsciously playing by…And the ways they've been trying so hard to get it “right” (only to end up feeling more confused, more drained, or more...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Fourteen years ago, I walked into a dorm room and accidentally learned a lesson I didn’t know I needed yet. I had no idea what I was doing in dating.I was hurt. I was embarrassed. I was afraid I’d never feel “that kind” of connection again. Fast-forward a few years, a futon, a hard “no,” a lost shoe (long story), and a relationship that grew despite any form of certainty. Here’s what I’ve learned, and what I still believe deeply: Love doesn’t thrive on having it all figured out.It...
5 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, What do you want? Someone who loves you for exactly who you are. And then what do you do? Act nothing like yourself. And then what do you get? Someone who thinks they know you. And then how do you feel? Not great, because they don’t actually know you. And then what do you do? Usually, end the relationship. And then who do you blame? Maybe them, maybe yourself. And then what do you do next?… If this cycle sounds familiar, you’re probably stuck in people-pleasing mode: the sneaky...
8 months ago • 1 min read
Let’s be honest... cause a lot of women are feeling it right now... many men suck.(Not all, but enough to make dating feel like trying to find Wi-Fi in the desert.) Between half-hearted effort, emotional unavailability, and situationships that go nowhere, it’s easy to lose faith in the whole process. But if you do want to keep dating (and, better yet, stop feeling defeated by it), there’s one little thing you can do that’ll save you a ton of emotional energy: 👉 Choose and commit to one of...
8 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Let’s be real… most people who struggle in dating aren’t struggling because they don’t care enough. They’re struggling because they care too much. They analyze every text. Overthink every pause. Rehearse every conversation before it even happens. If that sounds familiar, I want you to know this: You’re not “too much.” You’re just trying too hard. And I don’t mean that in a judgmental way. I mean you’re trying too hard to control something that’s meant to flow. Connection....
8 months ago • 1 min read
Hi, Reader, Have you ever gone home after a date and spent hours replaying every word, wondering what they meant, what you did wrong, and whether you’ll ever find love? You’re not alone (and you’re definitely not broken). But here’s the truth: some of the questions you’re asking yourself aren’t helping you get clarity... they’re actually secretly keeping you stuck (ugh, I know). Overthinking can feel productive (like you’re protecting yourself from heartbreak). But more often than not, it...
9 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader, If you’ve ever been on a date, there’s a 99.9% chance you’ve asked a question. Maybe even two or three. 😉 Questions are, of course, a key part of dating. But what you ask matters more than you might think. There are the usual small-talk questions (“What do you do for work?” “Where are you from?”). However, those rarely tell you much about a person’s character or emotional availability. Instead, I want you to try what I call strategic questions: the subtle, revealing ones that give...
9 months ago • 1 min read
I'll admit it, Reader - I loved that my husband took me out on our first date and covered the bill. I loved that he opened up the car door for me, picked out an appetizer he thought we should try, and covered the bill. But I don't love it because I expected it. I loved it because those were just a few of the many ways in which he authentically demonstrated his interest. Looking back, knowing what I know now (11 years later), those gestures were just small splashes on a canvas of a much richer...
10 months ago • 1 min read